Sex and Parenting
A perspective from kabbalah
Will Parfitt
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* Kabbalah teaches that men and women are created equal but have been
divided from one another, and within themselves. Sex is considered a holy
sacrament which can bring the divided back together. A Kabbalistic metaphor
says that the vessels God used during creation were broken and our work
in life is to repair these vessels. Sex undertaken in a loving context is
a powerful method for such repair.
Particularly important is sexual contact between a couple on Friday nights
when, during sex, the feminine aspect of god manifests and helps bring extra
energy to the love- making. To make a baby, the Kabbalah teaches the couple
should focus their attention on god during their love-making and open themselves
to being a channel for the manifestation of a new soul. Any and all other
procedures - which might include candle lighting, prayer, ritual chanting,
bathing for purification, and so on, are considered useful extras but the
real focus is on two people coming together to create a new being, thus
mirroring god's original creation.
Kabbalah stresses that parental responsibility to the new soul does not
end with the procreative act but should include the upbringing and guidance
of the child to adulthood, helping the child to feel at one with him- or
her-self and not fragmented within. Thus the work of 'repairing the vessels'
is not just accomplished through sex but through a life of dedication to
the power of love and unity.
Will Parfitt is a UKCP registered psychotherapist and an experienced
and innovative group leader. Trained in Psychosynthesis, he has more than
forty years experience of working with psychospiritual development, and
travels internationally to run courses on a variety of subjects including
kabbalah and psychosynthesis. Will is author of several books
including 'The Complete Guide to Kabbalah', 'The Something and Nothing of Death', 'Kabbalah:The Tree of Life' and 'Psychosynthesis: the Elements and Beyond.