How we define ourselves:
(who is doing the defining?)
Roles: for example therapist, husband, shopper – is that who I am?
Circumstances: for example neighbour – is that who I am?
Function: for example I’m the person who knows how to do this – is that who I am?
Past: I have a past – is that who I am?
Future/desire: for example I’m the one who’d like to be happy, I’m looking for something – is that who I am?
Feeling: Am I person who is feeling, or has a feeling (who has the feeling?) – is that who I am?
Explanations: who is the one who explains?
Continuity: is there continuity, is who I am now who I am now and now… ?
Assertions: for example I’m a spiritual being on a journey – who is answering? How do I know?
Depth: do I go deeper as the process continues or do I come to the surface more – in either case is that who I am?
Inquiry: someone who is eager, looks or questions like this, or one who avoids looking at questions like this (is one different from the other?)
Empty: what about when I go blank, enter silence?, Do I allow emptiness or am I looking for an answer: Am I the answer? Either one who is looking for an answer? — is that who I am?
I am I: is I am I enough or is I am a fiction?
Observer: am I what I observe (for example I see a flower) or the Observer? or the process of observing? or the relationship between observer and observed? or something that enables observation?
Am I all or none of this, or both all and none of this, or … ?
Who am I now?
…… and from where does all this awareness arise?
Will Parfitt – www.willparfitt.com