The Real Self and Master Chef

//The Real Self and Master Chef

The Real Self and Master Chef

Sometimes we say ‘real’ and ‘true’ self  in an attempt to distinguish that self from the ‘everyday ego self’ but these words imply a judgment and separation. If something is ‘real’ then something is not, if something is ‘true’ then something is ‘untrue’.

The Self just is. Does it exist? Do we exist? What is ‘existence’ anyway? See how the mind trundles out questions when the answer isn’t a response, it’s just what is:

The Self is.

Is it ‘god’ ‘the divine’ ‘the source’… yes because it is everything and yes because it is nothing and no because it is everything and no because it is nothing and …

… don’t look to the question of ‘what is’, look into experience of:

what is emerging now? right now? … and where does this ‘whatever it is emerging’ arise from? what is the source of this awareness of anything, everything and nothing?

It reminds me of the Zen story where the Master had brought the monks together to chose the next head monk.  The cooking monk had not been invited, but half way through the meeting he walked through the hall, accidentally tripping over a water pitcher whilst doing so. The Master chose him to be the new head monk.

Those keen for the role were attached to having it (whether their attachment was ‘ego’ or ‘something deeper’, it was still attachment) … and those not interested weren’t suitable either … so who was? The cooking monk! He didn’t care whether he was head monk or not, he just did the cooking.

Here comes the beginning of an adventure:

– when cooking, just cook

– when

[fill in any activity or non-activity], just [exactly that]

Will Parfitt –


About the Author:

Will Parfitt has forty years experience of working with personal and spiritual development. A Psychosynthesis and Kabbalah author and teacher, Will lives in Glastonbury, offers spiritual guidance and supervision and runs well-established distance learning courses.


  1. Phil May 7, 2015 at 8:57 am - Reply

    How wonderfully enlightening

  2. Helen May 28, 2015 at 6:55 am - Reply

    Hi Will

    I am thinking(!) … reality, as I experience and observe, we, humans, are gifted with the ‘true self as well as the false self’. The false self, the ego, is necessary for survival. Our ability to reflect, however, given time and guidance, hopefully will help us to develop a higher level of consciousness, to unfold more of the ‘true self’, to be more aware of mara, as the Buddhist would say… be ourselves……..

    What do you think Will?

    • Will May 28, 2015 at 7:41 am - Reply

      Seems to me it’s not so much about developing a ‘higher level of consciousness’ as recognising it is there already, not to be achieved – there’s nothing to achieve – but to be lived, to live with what is…. once we make the distinction between ‘true’ and ‘false’ self we enter into dual thought and are divided … self just is, neither ‘real’ nor ‘false’ … a problem arises when ‘ego’ starts to believe it is the real self and everything else is not thus compounding the division.

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